There are special people next to whom we fall in love with ourselves. We think, with them.

Both are true: we fall in love with the “between”, with the “touch”. In such moments we stay in between, we are “between”, we are what we touch. Sometimes it looks like a thin dashed line, sometimes like a Taijitu symbol.

We feel our uniqueness with every person. With each – a different uniqueness. These are not masks, this is real. This is me, different me depending on who I am with. Different colors, different textures.

You can clearly feel your difference in tango. Different partners – different feelings. But not only the partners are different: we ourselves are different depending on who we are dancing with. In Tango-therapy, we practice an exercise with a very quick change of partners, while the followers close their eyes. “I was ten different women”, “It seemed to me that my names were different”, “I have all the partners whom I danced with inside me”, “When I was alone for a second, I disappeared”.

Surprisingly, this is true about other people. They gain special uniqueness, color and texture by communicating with us. They touch and mix with us, dissolve in us. They are unique next to us, they cannot repeat themselves like that with anyone else.

There are people who fall in love with themselves next to us.

Igor Zabuta, psychotherapist, tango-teacher; http://izabuta.com/en/